…unitl “I DO”…

Soooooo, be careful what you pray for. I prayed for the Lord to use me and for me to be obedient WITHOUT hesitation in the 2015, and here I am blogging at 2 something in the morning!!! Good stuff!!! Aaaaaaahhhhh!!! Anywho!! Happy New Year!!!! **Blows party horn**

So yeah, they say, “Every kiss begins with Kay”, well I have been excluding that letter from my alphabet. There’s this meme (of course) that says something about “If she hadn’t kissed you by the 3rd date, then she’s only there for the food” and it made me chuckle, but then it made me think and respond, “or maybe she’s waiting until she’s married”.

***Now for my disclaimer! I have read before about Born-again Christian women waiting until their wedding date to kiss their spouse and my immediate thought was, “ARE THEY CRAZY?!?!?!” But as time went on, I became crazy myself!!***

I struggled with the decision for some time because me like to kiss and you see, that was my problem! So when I actually DID start dating, it just came out before I knew it, that I wanted to wait and it is so.

As I look back on my kissing journey, I realized that with one simple kiss, things immediately (in my head and my body) escalated. Once the flesh comes alive, its hard to control it and I recognized that I had a problem, so I’m good on my decision! (It’s what works for you!)

It takes a strong man and a TRUE Christian man to not only wait for sex until they are married, BUT to accept the fact that you don’t even want to kiss until then and be cool with that!!! WHAT?!?!?! (I thank God for my man!) So ladies! YES! Whatever your desires are, if they line up with the Will of God, HE WILL FULFILL THEM! “Delight thyself in the Lord; and He shall GIVE thee the desires of thine heart, Commit thy way unto the Lord; TRUST also in Him; and He shall BRING IT TO PASS” Psalm 37:4-5, KJV (Emphasis added). Hallelujah!!

So now, here are my reasons for waiting::

1. I trust God MORE than myself, cuz I am no good!

2. I respect the man that I am dating.

3. I know I have a problem; I know my limits and my boundaries.

4. Once the flesh is alive, it is hard to control it. That is why you DIE to flesh…..KILL IT!!!!!

5. I do not want to be misleading, a tempter, or a hindrance.


Romans 7 and verse 18 tells us that in our flesh “dwelleth NO GOOD THING”!!! So you see why I said that twice. God placed that desire, not to kiss until my wedding day, in my heart because He knows me and had I hit the ball and moved to first base, we would have ran to second, possibly slid to third, and would have may been trying to sneak to home base! Tuh! Can’t have that happening. NOPE!! So yeah. I also respect him with his purity journey to not put him in any compromising situation. I want it to be easy for him without adding any other unnecessary challenges along the way. “Be careful, however, that the exercise of your rights does not become a stumbling block to the weak…When you sin against them in this way and wound their weak conscience, you SIN AGAINST CHRIST”! (1 Cor 8: 9 and 11, NIV) Garsh! Even though it may not be a struggle for him to control himself, I know that it is for me and I can be a bit persistent at times: “So then, every one of us shall give account of himself to God. Let us not therefore judge one another any more: but judge this rather, that NO MAN put a stumbling block OR an occasion to fall in his [0r her] brother’s way” Romans 14:12-13, KJV, now lets move on. So you see, recognizing you have a problem and knowing your limits and boundaries are a MUST! You don’t want to put yourself in any compromising situations as well as them. TRUST ME! You will have enough of other things to work on and worry about! Chill out; you wont miss it! We all can attest to how liberating doing things you want to do, in that moment, is; but as born again believers, we know that the flesh is no good (Rom 7:18) and that we are no longer debtors to the flesh and therefore no longer live after the flesh, but after the Spirit (Romans 8:12-13). So do what you got to do to kill that lustful flesh of yours!!! (except get a tattoo, cuz my accountability peeps wont let me! Blah…) I also don’t want to be misleading by saying one thing and doing another:: Remember, actions speak louder than words! Not tryna be a seductive temptress like the Proverbs 7 woman (READ IT!) as well as a hindrance like we mentioned earlier about the stumbling block. And of course again, this flesh I’m living in is ratchet!!

People laugh and joke and question how do I know and how will I know “what’s up” if I’m not indulging in those types of activities and my thing to that is this: Jesus knows what I like and I TRUST and believe that He will not play me when it comes to that!! But I don’t need those attributes to know about him. He has all the other MAJOR qualities and characteristics to let me know what the deal is. So ladies, don’t let any one plant bad seeds in you and water them. REMEMBER::

Love is PATIENT, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is NOT SELF-SEEKING, it is not easily angered, it keeps NO records of wrongS (I just had to emphasize that right there, don’t mind me), Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It ALWAYS PROTECTS, always trust, always hopes, ALWAYS PRESERVES. [and most of all] Love. Never. Fails.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 **emphasis added**

So bae, if your boo thang ain’t presenting those qualities from that verse, and he (or she fellas) keep tryna convince you to change your mind and MAKE you feel like you got to compromise….LET THAT GO shawty. They ain’t for you and they sure as heck ain’t for God. Now go run and tell that!!!


-DanikaKayelle XOXO


  1. Brittany says

    yesssssss!!!!! yessssss!!! and yesssssss!!!!! I started reading your blog….didn’t get too far then I stopped because I had remembered I said I would read Romans 8:5 2 days ago. So everything fell into place, praise God!! #confirmation I read Romans 7 and 8, whooaa. You know what amazes me…how you can re-read a chapter and it has a whole new meaning than the first time you read it. WOW, so of course when I read it today it was filled with much revelation and conviction. Girl, that flesh ain’t no JOKE!! I’m really sitting here saying Lord I am filthy with Casey J “fill me up” on repeat because I am a true mess. If it was up to my flesh I would surely be dead, but MY GOD!!! Thank you. His new mercies and second chances times a gazillion is the bomb.com! Day 7 of 2015 and I’m already slipping. But I’m super grateful for the Holy Spirit, God, Jesus, and thankful that he sent me you!
    Your writing has truly blossomed and you are exercising your God given gifts. I’m super proud of you and who you are becoming. Often times we need to be reminded to stay in the race and through you God has sent me that reminder. Thank you for being obedient to God’s voice and getting up at 2am to write this. You have an amazing gift continue to nurture, water, and groom it. The best is yet to come!
    And keep dying to the ole’ nasty, dirty, unholy FLESH!!! Satan will not have us!! In Jesus name Amen!

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