Let’s talk about sex!!!!
Pretty Ricky asks, “Can you make it juicy for me?”, Trey Songz wants to be “In the middle”, Ciara says, “My body is your party”, and yet, God asks and says, “Why spill the water of your springs in the streets, having sex with just anyone? You should reserve it for yourselves. Never share it with strangers.” Proverbs 5: 16&17 (NLT) The Bible clearly defines that sex is between man and woman and is to be saved for marriage. “It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the pagans who do not know God; and that in this matter no one should wrong or take advantage of a brother or sister. The Lord will punish all those who commit such sins, as we told you and warned you before. For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life.” 1 Thessalonians 4:3-7 (NIV)
So now, a lot of times I get asked, “What is the purpose of waiting” and I ask back, “What is the point of NOT waiting!?” Why is it so important to have sex before marriage?? “What if you wait and then it be whack!?” Well, if you stayed pure from the beginning like you were supposed to, how will you know if its whack or not?! Hmmm… But let’s keep it real. This day and age, all we see, read, and hear is sex, sex, SEX!!! They make it sound like it ain’t nothing and it is SOMETHING!!! Sex is wonderful, sex is magical, sex is when two people transfer part of themselves on to another. God doesn’t want you to NOT have sex, He wants you to have it the right way! With a covenant, under His protection. Genesis 2:24 (KJV) says, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” Every time you have sex outside of marriage you are leaving yourself open for destruction. Not just in a biblical aspect, but in a worldly one as well. You having sex before marriage is not a guarantee that person will stay with you. Okay, so its good and you continue to do it, but he/she doesn’t want to commit and then what? You turn into a bump buddy and you may even possibly feel played because you gave yourself up to this person and they don’t want nothing more than that to deal with you. So eventually you get tired of that and move on to the next, now what!? You guessed it!!! Y’all have sex!! Same story, different person. Do you know that each time you have sex with a person, a part of you stays with them and them with you??! “Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, ‘The two will become one flesh'” 1 Corinthians 6:16 (NIV). SOULTIES!! Why is it that you still think about them from time to time, even without noticing it.?! Whether it was good, bad, or just aiight; they have left their mark and now you can’t get rid of it. When Jesus was at the well, He told the Samaritan woman to go call her husband and when she told Him she had no husband, He said unto her, “You are right when you say you have no husband. The fact is, you have had FIVE husbands, and the man you now have is NOT your husband” John 4: 17-18 (NIV). Wow!! So see how that ties into sex and marriage?? If you are having sex, it should be with your husband or wife. So now, I have to ask, how many “husbands/wives” have you have and is that your husband/wife that you have now?? You call yourself a “Christian” right, but are you really being Christlike?? #Bodycheck #Spiritcheck #Bedcheck
I’m not married so I can’t attest to sex IN marriage, but I can attest to sex outside of marriage. Since becoming a born again virgin, and yes, that can happen, I now see why He says what He say. Premarital sex causes so much damage whether you realize it or not! You really do lose a part of yourself each time you engage in it and if you engage too much, you can lose yourself completely. Eventually you are going to feel you are worthless, only good for some joog; and please, let me be the one to tell you that you are not. You are worth SO much more than just sex! Granted, you have those soul ties, but you can be free from them! Will it take time and work?? YEAH! But is it worth it??? ABSOLUTELY!!! As you abstain, strength is what you gain. Confidence, standards, dignity, worth! You begin to learn that those who pushed sex on you and/or allowed for it all to go down really didn’t have your true interest at heart, but I can tell you someone who does. God does and guess what?? He has the perfect person here on earth who does as well! Now, I’m not saying that if you’re having sex with the person you are with now is not your husband/wife, but if you desire to have a deeper relationship with God and believe that He is calling you to stop living in sin and you trust and believe that He is more than enough and can supply all that you need, then why don’t you let Him be that and more for you!?! If you roll over and look at that person who is not your husband/wife and tell them this and that you want to be born again and they say, “that ain’t for me”, let me encourage you to FLEE!! For Paul says, “It is better to marry than to burn” 1 Corinthians 7:9. You may think I’m crazy for saying that because you’ve been with that person for years and you’ve invested so much in/with them, y’all have kids, same friends, all in each other’s families, combined income, a house, a good lil life going for yall, I get all that; but now let me ask.. Why haven’t you marry??? What’s the hold up? You have all that going for you and yet you are still S-I-N-G-L-E! Oh darn, what have I done!? Look, I’m not here to judge you, just here to tell you the truth and spread the gospel. I want everyone to be pure and to know Him for themselves. He is “something” for someone! Whatever that something is you need, that is He! My prayer and desire is for your soul to be saved for it is written: “For of this you can be sure: No immoral, impure or greedy person–such a person is an idolater–has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God. Let NO one deceive you with empty words; for because of such things God’s wrath comes on those who are disobedient. Therefore do not be partners with them” Ephesians 5:5-7 (NIV).
I will end with this: “Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Draw nigh to God, and He will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands, ye sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double minded.” James 4:7-8 (KJV)
Father God, I pray that the words you have blessed me to write in this blog touches the hearts of those whom you sent it forth to touch for we know once your word leaves from your mouth shall not return unto you void, but it shall accomplish that which you please and it shall prosper in the thing whereto you sent it. God, I pray that we vow to be celibate and submit to you, trusting and believing that what you say is true and that you keep us as long as we are submitting and seeking you. Lord, I pray for those who will take this step after being tied down for so long, I pray their strength in you dear Jesus. You’ve done it for me, so I know you can do it for them. Lord, I pray your forgiveness on us and I thank you for your salvation and deliverance. In Jesus name I pray, Amen.